FamLEAD Blog

A few random whiteboards hung in my garage. It’s far from a Pinterest worthy collage or a beautifully framed family crest. Maybe one day with help from the ladies in the family. Instead, I just hung a few whiteboards in our garage. I cobbled this together over the years for one simple reason: the things you want to shape your family culture have to be visible. Starting on the right. A small whiteboard to track fines. Fines are the primary consequence we use when expectations aren’t met. Each...

It was a Saturday afternoon when I finally brought it up with Brittany. We were driving home from one of our kids' games. The kids were laughing in the back seat, but my mind was elsewhere. For weeks, I’d been thinking about starting a weekly family meeting. Although the idea of a family meeting might sound cold or rigid, meetings are really just an intentional opportunity for people to come together and talk about things that matter. Well run meetings can be really effective outside the...

Well, the fall 2025 Family Leadership Sprint is in the books. Every day for a month I shared content, tools, and simple action steps to help guys create momentum at home. Taken together, it gave a full walkthrough of the entire Family Leadership System. Alongside the daily content, I did weekly one-on-one coaching calls with each of the guys. We had a group call, and those who are local are getting together in person this weekend. I learned a ton about how to level up the next cohort, which...

Hey guys, Well, I messed up pretty good and figured I'd tell you about it. I talk often about “Protector” being one of the core responsibilities of a husband, father, and leader of the family. I failed at that role over the weekend. I left the garage door open all night… along with leaving the garage lights on. I’ll skip the excuses. The simple reality is that, as the father and leader of my home, it’s my job to scan for threats, including physical ones, and make sure those risks are...

Some evenings, you can just feel it. The tension. The short answers. The sighs at the dinner table. Nobody’s yelling, but nobody’s smiling either. The house feels heavy, like the joy got quietly sucked out. That was the top issue on our family’s “issues list” earlier this year. We labeled it: Negativity, 5:1 ratio. It’s that general feeling that hangs in the air when at least a couple of us are in a bad mood. We’re short with each other. We’re not talking much, and when we do, it’s mostly...

You can sense it in shallow conversations that never really get honest. You see it in the faces of men sitting in traffic, walking through airport terminals, and scrolling in bed late at night, wondering if this is really what it’s all for. Men are struggling. We’ve all seen the data. Depression rates are up. A record number of men say they have no close friends. Men kill themselves at four times the rate of women. Young men are checking out of school, work, and relationships at record rates....

A group of dads is 15 days into the "30 Day Family Leadership Sprint". After multiple calls with each dad, here are my top 15 takeaways. This includes my top learnings along with the points that dads are saying are resonating most with them. Busyness is the obstacle. No shocker here. This program is for dads who are right in the thick of life - careers, kids, activities and scheduling. How can this program not feel like an addition to the schedule, but instead provide focus so that we're...

Brittany and I got married young, before our senior year of college. Like many guys, I was less mature than girls my age. And I was especially less mature than Brittany. I procrastinated on homework. Played video games way too much. Had habits I'm far from proud of. Many Sundays I went to church only because I knew it mattered to her. She made me a better person than I would have been on my own. That sounds good. But I'm honestly kind of ashamed of it now. I saw my wife as more mature, more...

Picture this. You're 75 years old. Your kids are in their 40s and 50s. They're sitting around a table with their own kids, and someone asks: "What was it like growing up in your house?" What do you want them to say? Do you want them to remember a dad who was always working? Always distracted? Physically present but emotionally absent? Or do you want them to remember shared meals, bedtime prayers, camping trips, and hard conversations? A dad who showed up. Who listened. Who led with strength...

Guys, The Sprint is finally launching next week. After years of planning, implementing with my own family and talking with other dads, I'm looking forward to walking (sprinting?) through this structure with some of you. Some of you have signed up. And I have a few slots left. If you're thinking about it, if you're on the fence, shoot me a note. This is about creating momentum with the thing we say and know is a top priority, our families. You won't regret it. And the price is right (free)....